Tuesday, November 22, 2011

If you'd like me to comment on your dream in this blog, I would be glad to do so. While I cannot tell you what your dream means to you, the FiveStar Method allows a dream work facilitator to be actively involved in the dream discussion without violating the dreamer's autonomy. Since the FSM focuses on the dreamer's actions within the dream, and the impact of his/her responses on the dream imagery (and vice versa on in a reciprocal loop), most of our discussion is centered on "what is," rather than engaging speculative leaps of interpretive "brilliance." Focusing on analyzing content, and the underlying so-called meaning of the dream makes dream interpretation, as it's often practiced, hazardous to your emotional health. But by focusing on dreamer-dream interactive process, the dream worker can work with the dream safely and effectively, even in the absence of the dreamer. Of course, it would be better to have you present, but a lot of good work can be done without the dreamer. I hope to show you how.

Send the dream via email to me at gscotspar@gmail.com and I will


  1. In November 2012, I had a dream that I was standing in he cockpit of an airplane looking out of the front window, watching the airplane nose dive into, what looked like a ravine. I was not involved in the crash, but ended up in a tropical island type house on stilts. There were open windows, a breeze, tropical greenary and flowers. There sat a man with a full white beard and full head of white hair. I said to him, "Did you see, that, did you see the crash!!". He just smiled at me. I felt so calm and kept looking around wondering who this guy was. When I end up in the center of a roaring Euphrates river. I looked up alongside the bank and saw my cousin Christopher standing loooking at me in the river. He didn't look panic, nor did he offer to help. I can not swim, so I did what I thought was a "doggie paddle" to stay afloat in the this raging river, where I stood in one place. I begin to float under the water, but I did not act as if I was drowning. When the water came over my head, someone,something abruptly yanked me out of the water and I felt as if I were flying out of the water. I woke up and instantly the river Euphrates was in my ear.

    In December 2012, a few days before I was to make a visit to see my friend after 23 years. My friend shared with me that he had a dream where he and his 2 sons and daughter were in a beautiful park playing. There was a roaring river at the edge of the park and he explained to the children to not go near the river. They where playing as a family. When he turned and saw his youngest son playing with a football. My friend thought to himself, "this kid is going in the river" and the youngest son appeared in the river. He jumps in and he yanks the kid out of the water in a upward, flying motion.


  2. Hi, I posted this as a new posting, as well.

    If you’ve read some of my papers about the FiveStar Method, you’d know that my focus in working with your dreams is primarily on the dreamer, not the imagery, at least at first. So what I notice about this dreamer is that you are getting through these challenges without having to do much on your own. I mean, you aren’t flying the plane--you’re simply standing in the cockpit, where the controls are. You don’t panic, nor do you try to do something to avert the crash--you simply pass through the event unscathed. It’s a little different in the second part, because when you find yourself in another threatening spot, you do something (doggie paddle) on your own to respond to the situation. But again, you’re rescued from the situation by some force other than yourself.

    When we focus on the dreamer’s responses, we can’t assign a “good” or “not so good” assessment without the dreamer, because we all have different chronic ways of responding to life. If you tend to be rather passive, and depend on others, it comes through this dream, and it might not be the “cutting edge” of your development. But if you tend to be a controlling person, then this dream shows another side of life, whereby you are calm and taken care of--perhaps a very different kind of experience than you’re used to. So I would need to ask you, “What represents a creative and new (for you) way of responding to life? Going with the flow? If so, this dream shows you trusting a great deal. But if you are already calm and tend to be passive, you might look upon the dreamer’s level of response as reflective of a style that might need to be challenged (by you).

    Regardless of the level of the dreamer’s response to these challenges, it certainly seems to work out, suggesting that you are getting through things with lots of support, either from within yourself and/or from other people in your life.

    After analyzing your responses, we would turn to the imagery and get your associations. The old man, your cousin, the Euphrates, etc. In the case of the two male figures, they don’t do much directly--there’s no verbal communication. The lack of interaction is intriguing,and I’d want to explore that with you. But at least we can see that Christopher’s presence seems to coincide with your rescue, again conveying the sense that you’re being watched over and cared for by strong and capable support.

    When we factor in your friend’s dream, as a possible psychic connection, it’s tempting to insert him into the helper role for you, isn’t it? You don’t dream of each other, but the situations are similar, and he is the rescuer in his dream. Interestingly, he experiences rescuing one of his children, and you are as helpless as a child, only able to doggie paddle. In a way, it’s a wonderful overlap, suggested psychic support from him. But again, you would need to ask, “Is this my customary role, and will depending on him unbalance our friendship?” It could be a refreshing and bonding experience for both of you or it can be “chronic” and unbalanced. It takes both of you participating in this analysis to answer these questions. I certainly cannot, but this process, which focuses on relational dynamics raises the questions that need to be asked, don’t you think?

    If you'd like to share more reflections on your dream, please do so. I might have more to say at that point. Thanks for sharing your dream!


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